One of the oldest forms of contract is shaking hands. From this grew handfasting, the tradition of binding a couple's hands to symbolise their vows to each other. Although it has no legal standing, it can be a powerful and evocative ritual as part of a wedding or commitment ceremony. In the past the couple would keep their bindings for the whole day, but not many couples now would elect to do that: fairly limiting for the photos!
To change or not to change... that is the question!
Using your partner's name after marriage is an age-old tradition which doesn't neccessarily stack up in the modern world. Now that women don't need to belong to a man to get a loan or have any status, one wonders why it's still as common as it is.
Legally, after marriage, you can choose to keep using your "maiden" name, or use your married name. If you choose...
Ah, the honeymoon! After weeks of preparation and a huge day, you can finally relax and spend some time together.
Your favourite thing to do in bed is really up to you, and won't be covered in this post. But when you need something different to do, or you're lazing poolside on a sunny day, you'll need a good book to read.
To give you some great suggestions, I've called on international bibliotherapist Sonya Tsakalakis. She ha...
A wedding or commitment ceremony can be a fine balance between competing desires: tradition or originality?
Although it can be tempting to throw out tradition in search of a fresh and unique flavour, don't be too quick. Traditional elements carry with them the weight of the untold weddings which have preceeded yours. In using these traditions, we effortlessly inv...
Tip No. 3: Take a moment to define why you are gettting married.
It's a question that I ask my couples early on.
Why have you decided to get married?
This can be a surprisingly difficult question to answer, especially when your relationship has progressed in a natural, seamless way. But there are a few really good reasons to sit down and define exactly why you're making this commitment.
Your wedding day will go in a flash, and you will experience a heightened sense of unreality through the whole day. It's like one long dream, one long out-of-body experience. (Can you imagine how exciting and fun the whole day is?) When you look back, you will have some crystal-clear memories, but many moments will fade with time.
Marry someone who looks after you and who you respect.
Although these two attributes are not the only ones to consider, they are a good simple guide. The rest of your life is a long time, so make sure you spend it with someone who has concern for your wellbeing, and shows it!
Choose someone who interests you and who you admire. Someone who will continue to grow and flourish throughout your life together.